This time, I would like to talk about “Perception of Japanese girls in a relationship” !! Well, it’s gonna be my point of view from my own experiences. …
Why do I want to talk about this? Because I often face a misunderstanding about this concept when I am in a relationship with different nationalities, especially guys outside of Asia. Let’s get started.
1, What is your perception of Japanese girls?
Kind, nice, genuine, polite, fashionable, quiet, respect, honest, etc…
Sounds good, eh? When I hear these comment, I am really happy to be a Japanese girl. (Yes, I am not so young like “girl”, but you know what I mean?)
However, at the same time, I feel insecure about myself. What do they expect me, then?
Yes, I respect people a lot, I mean I do care about respect in my daily life. I don’t think I’m dishonest neither.
However, I am far from quiet and fashionable, also sometimes way too far from nice when I get upset…
I’m more temper and straightforward when things get to need to be clear with my boyfriend.
After this happens, almost all my ex-boyfriends realized that I wasn’t same as their perception of Japanese girls. A bit different.
Usually, it doesn’t take so long to find out what kind of person he or she is if we see them really carefully. Love is blind? That’s true though.
2, What do you expect when you start dating a Japanese girl?
Being with respect to relationships, going out to eat sushi, cooks Japanese food, etc…
Yes, it’s true we respect a person whom we are in a relationship with. But it doesn’t mean we cook for him every day, we cook sushi every weekend. That’s another story. I’ve been living in Montreal 1.5 years and I went out for Japanese restaurant only sometimes. And make Japanese food at home once in a while. I mean real Japanese food.
What I want to say is that I feel so much pressure if a guy tells me that “I like Japanese girls because…..”, I feel like he likes me because I’m Japanese.
Where does your image of Japanese come from? Internet? Anime? Or just stereotype?
My Japanese boy’s friend once told me that typical Japanese girls wouldn’t leave Japan. It means, their perception of Japanese girls can be found more in Japan, not outside of Japan.
Yes, of cause some people to argue with that. And I totally understand that many Japanese girls outside Japan have similarity as girls in Japan.
Just we are a little bit more independent, I suppose.
I have met so many amazing girls from all around the world. Each person is just beautiful the way they are, who they are.
All of us has our roots and a bit of spice which made from our own experience. This combination makes an individual person more attractive, over the perception. Don’t you think so? 😉